Drawing The Line On Unsolicited Advice
A few years ago I learned a major lesson for myself: don’t give unsolicited advice and don’t accept unsolicited advice.
At the time, I was going through a break-up and although friends were well-meaning, they were giving me advice that made me feel worse.
I later read several modern conscious relationship books and discovered that the advice my friends had been offering was outdated thinking that doesn’t serve anyone now.
What hurt most is that I wanted my friends to listen to me but they were too busy giving advice that I never asked for. Sadly, I stopped talking to them about what was going on in my life.
I vowed to not offer unsolicited advice and to practice listening to people instead. Now, if I feel I have helpful advice, I will ask for permission to share it, and I won’t get offended if the answer is no.
Once I “turned off” the external noise, I was able to hear my inner guidance – a much more gentle, quiet voice. This voice was speaking of unconditional love and to me, was a voice of reason far more than anything else I’d heard.
The bottom line is that being present to others is far more important than trying to be helpful. And being present to your self is absolutely crucial: let your heart be your compass guiding you on the path of life.