This is an edited transcript from my livestream on YouTube: Tips for Attracting Divine Partners, Conscious Love Relationships, Sacred Unions (Part 1). Watch the video here
Namaste, this is my weekly Divine Messages channelling from my Star Team. Tonight I felt we were going to talk about conscious love relationships and there are a few different ways to describe these – some people say sacred partnerships or divine partnerships – essentially it’s a way to describe a higher frequency connection in a love partnership.
I’ve seen a lot of people this year and last year in guidance sessions who were describing how they’ve met someone and there’s an energetic connection that they’ve never felt like this before and they’re confused about it. Often that is what leads to a higher consciousness loving partnership.
The challenging part is deciding or figuring out whether it’s a karmic connection because that energy of karma can feel like that too. Sometimes it is a repeating partnership that’s happened through many lifetimes and you’re feeling the connection – the remembrance of that. It could be a mixture of both, a bit of karma and a bit of a soul partner who you’ve been with through many lifetimes and you can only know by just moving forward and seeing what happens – letting it unfold but doing it with awareness.
Trust Intuition, Not Dating Advice
A problem can exist where you’re experiencing this but you’re applying the regular dating wisdom – the “wisdom” that is going around in society – and it just doesn’t mesh, doesn’t make sense. It’ll cause a lot of frustration and it won’t actually help you move forward in this relationship and could actually cause problems and make it stall or go backwards.
So that’s one of the things to be wary of, that dating books and so on may not apply to these kinds of relationships. Trust your intuition! There are other people like us who understand – it’s best to talk to people who understand rather than to talk to friends who don’t understand and are giving you old dating advice. Be careful who you listen to, and really trust yourself and your guidance.
Connecting to your guidance is going to be a big part of this relationship, because that will help you move through the ascension process and have the personal growth that will actually bring in this partner or partners as you go through higher and higher levels of frequency and vibration.
Vibrational Growth in Partners
What can happen is that you’ll attract a partner and then there’ll be a shifting growth frequency and you’ll slide up and if they slide up, you’ll keep connecting, but if they don’t, you’ll keep going and they’ll fall away. Then you’ll bring in another one and it will keep going like that. That’s how I describe it to my clients, it’s just an easier way to understand that it’s not so much personal but it’s more about vibration.
Start Working on Yourself
The number one starting point is working on yourself and the motivating factor for that would just be to feel good, because we want to heal the bits that don’t feel good. The wounds include childhood wounds, inner wounds, past life wounds and trauma that has occurred in your life. You can also look at shadow aspects of yourself and integrate those.
This healing is done throughout life – it’s not like you can achieve it all and then it’s done. Just keep working at it and your vibrational energy field will become clearer as you release more and more. This will help you magnetically attract the partner who is at the same vibration as you.
Super Attractor Guidance
I’m going to see what guidance my Star Team has. I’m using the Super Attractor deck and asking about personal growth: what we can do to bring in a high vibration partner?
This card says: “When I surrender my will to the care of spirit and the universe I attune my energy with an ever-present stream of wellbeing”. Surrender is a big part of this – it’s about working with your spirit team and not feeling alone in it, and by spirit team, I mean your higher self, your spirit guides, your archangels, your guardian angels – the higher parts of yourself.
Next card: “I trust that my powerful intentions combined with my faith are enough to allow my vision to become my reality”. Another big part of this is setting the intention that you wish to bring in a high vibration partnership. That is your biggest dream – you don’t want low-vibration partnerships anymore, you want a conscious loving relationship.
I’ve written a blog about this topic, so you can look at the vibrational alignment that is required and tips about how to manifest this kind of love partnership. Essentially it all comes down to self-love. If you can achieve the self-love part, loving everybody else in your life is going to be way easier. We’re all here to learn self-love.
Next cards: “When I’m connected to spirit, I feel a sense of certainty, magnitude and ease that I’ve never known before” and “The universe has big plans for me and it’s time to claim them.” Often these partnerships are part of a Divine plan that has a purpose, which is usually serving the greater good. So one of the things you can do when you are setting an intention to call in your partnership is to say it is for the highest good of all. You can say: “Thank you spirit for bringing my Divine partnership to me for the highest good of all.”
Ask For Help
Now I’m using the Divine Abundance Oracle deck, which is another good deck to help us get into the vibrational alignment needed for this. This card fell: “Invite Help: Invite the Divine to pursue you. Seriously, just say ‘I’m finally ready, God pursue me’”. Again this is about inviting help from your spirit team and the Divine – they will help you connect with the person you’re meant to meet. In many of these cases, the people meet in interesting ways that are quite unique and fascinating – there’s usually a really good story. I know when I hear these stories, I can really tell that spirit has its finger in this and has connected the dots and helped these people come together.
Non-Attachment is Key
The next card says “Flow: Allow me, Divine, to move with the flow and respond with calmness and peace”. Going with the flow and listening to spirit and being open and allowing this to unfold with detachment or non-attachment is really important. Any vibration that is coming from fear, like fear of losing something and grasping, holding on tight, or worry that you’re never going to get it – any fear like that, which is lower vibration, is going to lower your vibration. So each time you come into that kind of vibration, shift out of it – do whatever you can to leave it behind and move into high vibration. I would choose to move into a state of gratitude – you can just focus on everything you’re grateful for in your life – just spend a moment doing that and that instantly shifts you into a different vibe that’s going to help you bring in more of the good things. Use gratitude to move out of fear.
Set Your Intention
Work with intention and affirmations: you can say as if it’s already happened, “thank you spirit for bringing my partner to me” or “thank you for helping me see my partner” or “discover my partner” or “find my partner easily”. Things like that – just be creative and think about it as if you’ve already done it or already achieved it
Follow Inner Guidance
The next card is an important part of it too: “Every day it becomes easier to receive the highest Divine plan and to trust my inner guidance”. First of all, Divine plan – it’s important to recognise there is a Divine plan and you just allow things to happen – you allow them to come and you allow them to go, you don’t fight it with resistance.
Secondly, trust your inner guidance, which is really important. I recommend everyone does meditation regularly so that they can use that time to connect with their guides. It’s a perfect time when the guides can come in, when the mind is more calm, and reach you. The inner guidance is going to help you make the right decisions too, so it will help you steer away from people who are not right for you and find the right person for you.
I do feel that a lot of the partnerships coming together recently, the people couldn’t have not met – it is so obvious that they were brought together through situations to come into each other’s presence and feel the energy and then they knew it could not stop. This energy is puzzling to a lot of people – people can be in relationships already and then this energy felt is very different, and they’re confused like, “what do I do?” – it was unexpected, but at a higher level it is all part of the plan.
Ascended Masters Help Too
What happens on this path is that the guides will be helping you, but also ascended masters will come in at different times to help you to grow, to move out of different programming and beliefs, and to help you come to your full potential. Mother Mary is one of those ascendant masters who works with the Divine Feminine.
Practice Patience & Gratitude
I’m now using Mary, Queen of Angels oracle and as I’m shuffling, I am asking “what can you tell us from this deck?” I’m hearing “patience” – having patience for this process to unfold is really important. This card says: “Blessings: Today I count my blessings, small and large, and I notice the new gifts that come to me from God”. That’s really about gratitude – I feel like the gratitude part of this equation is going to help power you through it. It’s actually going to help you bring things to you because that vibrational shift that you have is really appreciating the beautiful things and then that feeling in you is going to attract more of that. Some people practice gratitude every day and they keep a gratitude journal.
Prayer & Intention
The next card is “Prayer: Instead of worrying, I pray about this situation to bring about real solutions”. The key here is “instead of worrying I pray” – and prayer doesn’t have to be religious, it can be a request to the Divine. If you can put into words what you truly, truly desire, that is forming an intention, and then express that and keep the focus on that – don’t get distracted. Part of the equation, again, is believing that you can receive that, so if we go back to the beginning of the video where I was talking about self-worth, self-love, self-esteem – working on all of those things will help you manifest the love relationships that you want.
Feel in Your Heart
The Star Team are telling me about feeling in your heart, coming into your heart, out of the mind and into the heart. Feel the bottled feelings of past relationships and let them out, let them go. Feel everything and don’t disconnect the head and the heart – feel, feel, feel. It’s really important, especially when we talk about self-love, we want to really be able to feel our feelings instead of disconnecting to avoid feeling them [read my blog I Feel It All].
Perseverance on the Path
Now I’m using the Soul’s Journey oracle and this card has come out: “Discipline: I can accomplish what I set my mind to”. This is about perseverance, you need to keep going with the intention you’ve set – a lot of people give up just before it’s about to be fulfilled. Also, it’s about continuing with this growth and not just shelving it and saying “I don’t want to do it”. Know that every time you do healing work on yourself it’s going to help you feel better in your daily life.
The “Blame” card has come out – this is interesting, this came up yesterday when I was doing an energy reading about the March full moon in Libra (partnerships!). I feel like this current period of ascension, we are letting go of the low vibration act of blaming others, and instead taking responsibility for our part in whatever’s happened. The card says: “I accept responsibility for my well-being” – it’s also about looking after yourself and not looking to the partner to look after you, rather “I am capable of looking after myself”. Codependency is something we can leave behind. I don’t think people consciously want to be in a codependent relationship but it can happen because of childhood wounding, so we need to become aware of that and work our way out of it. You can possibly change the dynamic of the relationship but you need to work on yourself to do that.
Triggers & Mirroring
When these Divine partners come together, they do trigger each other and this is to speed up the spiritual growth. So if you notice the triggering is happening or there’s mirroring or other stuff, it’s not like you need to throw the relationship out. (Of course, you’ve got to check whether it’s abusive or not.) It’s about looking at what needs to be healed within you, or at least a light shine on it, and then the next time you get triggered you may not react so badly or you may recognise it and say: “Ah! That’s a childhood wound rearing its head, I won’t react.”
Healing in Relationship
These Divine partnerships help you to grow in a much faster way, so often there is downtime as each individual works on themselves. The magnetism of the energy connection brings them back together. If the magnetism doesn’t bring them back together, the partnership falls apart naturally and each goes on their way. So there’s an element of trusting the whole system and not attaching to something with fear of loss, but just moving with the flow and letting it unfold.
You’re always working on your own path, working on yourself, coming into spiritual alignment with your higher self and authenticity.
Adopting a Higher Perspective
Now I’m using Whispers Of Love oracle cards, which have guidance for working on yourself in the context of love, self-love and romantic love. The first card is “Practice Compassion: See things from a fresh perspective”. Often in these high consciousness relationships you are asked to see things from a new perspective, in a different way to previous relationships, because it’s a different ballgame.
Forgiveness is a Necessity
This card is “Forgiveness: Nothing is gained by holding on to past disappointments”. It’s about letting go of previous relationships or even just parts of a current relationship where you’ve held on to emotions. Forgiveness is about clearing your energy. It’s not that you have to accept bad behaviour from people, but it’s about respecting your own energy body and knowing that what you attract is going to be affected by your energy field, so it’s in your own interest to do the forgiveness work.
Ah! I was waiting for this card to come out – this card is beautiful – “The Union of Hearts: A love connection defies explanation”. That’s what we’re talking about! Often when I have a session with a client, they can’t explain the connection with someone and come to me for help in understanding it. It does defy explanation and there are terms, as I was saying, like “sacred partnership” or “Divine partnership”. I even hesitate to say those and I just say each connection is individual and unique and it’s up to you to find out what it is, and to keep an open mind and let spirit guide you.
This card says “Love Makes the Difference: Love helps heal past hurts and provides a sense of security and self-worth”. When you are remembering a partner from a previous life and you’re meeting them again in this life, there is instant love there. It’s an interesting feeling, it’s like “I’ve always known you, but I’ve only just met you” – it does awaken a whole level of love that you haven’t really experienced before.
So let’s see is there anything for the individual to work on… what would we work on right now? “Choose Love: You always have a choice, make yours with love.” Choosing to love instead of choosing to fear. We always have a choice of love or fear and how we respond to things or how we see situations. Look for the love in the situation. If you are starting from a place of fear, just move into the love. Try to be aware of your thoughts and aware of your reactions before you speak them.
True Expansive Love
Last card from this deck: “True Love: This love is once in a lifetime”. Again, talking about that quality of connection that is felt in these partnerships, which is quite different. I don’t want to put this on a pedestal, because I don’t think it should be, but it’s more about clearing your system so that you can feel that love. Because you’ve cleared out all the hurt and the pain, you’ve worked on your self-love, your self-esteem and you know you deserve it, then you can bring in another person who has done the same work. Feeling that love being expressed fully energetically is quite different to traditional relationships.
This next oracle deck is the True Love Reading Cards and I like this one because it has the Divine masculine, Divine feminine and the distorted masculine and distorted feminine. So the difference is that we’re aiming to be Divine and not distorted! Distorted is a way of saying we’re not quite healed, we’ve still got programs running, conditioning etc.
The “Soulmates” card just came out – often people know the term soulmates and feel the Divine partnership is like a soulmate connection. That’s something that helps you recognise it’s a different kind of relationship.
The last card for this reading is “Abundance” – I made a video about that, it’s one of the things we’re working on right now, coming into the consciousness of abundance, which I feel is a necessity for being in complete Divine feminine or Divine masculine energy. Letting go of lack consciousness, coming into abundance consciousness, knowing that you deserve it, you’re worthy of it, and you can just let it come to you.
I’ve got a nice comment here from Onespacelove Podcast: “Beautiful cards in alignment with your messages, unconditional love”. Yes, it’s all about unconditional love and self-love – I mean if I said anything about this, it would be work on self-love, that’s the number one thing to do!